Text Me When You Get Home by Kayleen Schaefer
We try to get together at least once a month to eat good food, drink martinis and laugh until our faces feel like they will crack. My girl group has seen me at my very shiny best, and at my absolute worst and they always show up, step up and get me up. They encourage me, they listen to my dreams and fears and they are the funniest people on the planet. We have seen each other through painful divorces, devastating losses, the ups and downs of motherhood, as well as great joys, personal successes and triumphs. Whenever we leave each other we always say “text me when you get home so I know you made it safe.” So when I saw Kayleen’s book I knew that I had to have it.
Text Me When You Get Home is an uplifting look at the evolution of modern female friendship as well as the author’s personal experiences with her core group. Kayleen examines the role of friendship as depicted through television shows and pop culture over time from Lavergne and Shirley, The Golden Girls (Rose and Blanche forever!), Friends, Sex and the City (die hard Carrie Bradshaw fan here) and Grey’s Anatomy. She also talks about powerful real life examples of friendship – Oprah and Gayle, Reese and Nicole, and Skimm co-founders Carly Zakin and Danielle Weisburg and how these women rather than being threatened by one another, feed off of each other’s strengths and vision.
She touches on the emergence of the “girl squad” over the last few years and how “if it’s authentic, there’s nothing more beneficial or helpful than to have a band of strong women who support you behind you.” I highlighted so many passages throughout this book and I constantly texted two of my closest friends while I was reading to discuss different theories and to say “you have to read this book!” Never before have I read something so affirming, so validating, and so celebratory of female relationships as this. Kayleen states towards the end that “Our friends are not our second choices. They are our dates for Friday nights and for our ex-boyfriends’ weddings. They are the visitors to our hometowns and hospital rooms. They are the first people we tell about any news, whether it’s good, terrible or mundane. They are our plus ones at office parties. They are the people we are raising our children with. They are our advocates, who no matter what, make us feel like we won’t fail. They are they people who will struggle with us are and who will stay with us.” YES. So much yes to this. I would not have made it without my core girl group and I am constantly amazed and awed by how fabulous they are and how much they have to offer and give not only to me, but their families and all those around them. So today, grab your girls, head for the bookstore, read this book together, laugh and lift each other up. And don’t forget to text them when you get home.
4.5 stars. Many, many thanks to Dutton Books for providing me with this wonderful book in exchange for my honest review.